Saying Goodbye

Is saying “Goodbye” a difficult process?

If so, the All About Dating Guru has experienced another “aha” moment while watching “Ugly Betty.”

It’s an episode that inspired me to write this post. The storyline was compelling and gripping enough about goodbyes that I felt it was a perfect opportunity to write about the true meaning of goodbyes.

This episode was so relevant since we just ended a year and are beginning a new one. Typically with the ending of a year or a season we are sometimes faced with the fact that a relationship may be ending. As I watched this episode I began to consider the notion of goodbyes being not only a unique and individual experience but also an experience that leads us in a new direction either toward a new relationship or simply a new beginning…alone.

As we embark upon 2010, we all have been provided with blank pages to our book of life and it’s up to us to fill them with words and experiences good enough to be considered a New York Times Best-Seller!

I also started to realize that the ending of a relationship could also be compared to the ending of an episode of a sitcom because with every ending you are left longing for more and ultimately excited about the outcome. It’s just enough to have you wanting more. It almost sounds like life. Life is very similar to a sitcom or a suspense novel; both are complete with twists and turns without any clue of how the storyline will end. Ironically enough, life is similar since we are forced to patiently wait to see how our own stories unfold.

The dialog in this episode also has me convinced that dating and life is more about the new beginnings and less about how a chapter ends. It’s the collection of the episodes or pages that make the story and not what’s in the middle.

I truly believe with every ending we become better and stronger people. It’s an indication that you are responsible for creating your path toward greater things. It’s not how your chapters end; it’s what you do with the next ones!

Best said by “America Ferrera’s character, Betty, “ We owe it to ourselves to move forward because chances are the endings are never going to stop! No matter how many times you are faced with saying ‘Goodbye,’ even for the greater good for oneself, saying goodbye still hurts!”

As 2010 unfolds always remember you owe it to yourself to believe in a better tomorrow and to recognize when saying “Goodbye” sometimes is a good thing! Dating is a challenging element in our lives and although saying “Goodbye” is one of the hardest things in life, I can guarantee that goodbye is a healing process.

Tonight I have gained an appreciation for saying, “Goodbye!” My “aha” moment, “Saying goodbye stinks but it also means I have been granted a new beginning.” That’s the best part!

Date Smart… Date for Success!